Women are always looking for "Mr. Right" as a quest for the Holy Grail. There is constant pressure to live a "normal" life - to marry and have kids. We have all heard, "When you getting married?" "When I eat some cake?" "You're too picky." "Do not you want to have children?" "Are you gay ?"
not-so-subtle suggestion is: "What is wrong with you?" "Why can not you be like everyone else?" Everything is geared toward couples and we buy right into that philosophy. Women often do not feel "whole", unless the man on his hands. There is a story about a young woman who, when asked why she was not married, replied: "Oh, I'm getting married in the first place." "Wonderful! first next month?" she queried. "Not the first chance I get." Unfortunately, many women have this mindset and, in desperation for normalcy, grab the first man who comes along. Some singles are so preoccupied with marriage that are not able to concentrate on the opportunities at hand. task to be married, becoming a driving their quest. And, it's no wonder with all women receiving devices required to be married.
Many women tend to get excited as soon as they meet a new man who seems to have some of the qualities they seek. Before you can say: "It's not even a bridesmaid dress!" They were rushed to the head in projections of future marital bliss. In their minds, they are already halfway down the aisle and they only met the man standing at the altar. Dame, pump the brakes! Take your time and get to know the true quality of a man before you get all excited. Do not get caught up in charisma and not look at the true character of man.
Many women tend to get excited as soon as they meet a new man who seems to have some of the qualities they seek. Before you can say: "It's not even a bridesmaid dress!" They were rushed to the head in projections of future marital bliss. In their minds, they are already halfway down the aisle and they only met the man standing at the altar. Dame, pump the brakes! Take your time and get to know the true quality of a man before you get all excited. Do not get caught up in charisma and not look at the true character of man.
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When we reach a certain age and still single, people are starting to encourage us to "wait", "trust", and "have faith". However, we believe that he cheated something so important was withheld from us. While waiting, we should not feel like we're in a kind of social purgatory, waiting for the bliss of marriage. "Your sentence of 5-10 years, without possibility of parole ..." We do not serve time or marking time. There is much that can be achieved and experience as a person. I had the opportunity to become involved with various extracurricular activities, spend time with friends and explore my love for travel and shopping, not to mention write a book or two. I probably would not have done most of it, if I was focused on taking care of her husband and family. I'm sure there would be other activities of value, but probably not that. But all this still may come later.
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While we need to plan for the future, we should not spend so much time focusing on our future status is not married to take advantage of what today has to offer. Life is a process not an event. We need to focus on the entire journey, not a single step. We have to be present in the present and embrace life fully. There is a story floating through e-mail system that tells how people put their lives on hold until "after" - "after I buy a house," after I get married "," after I that promotion "," after the kids go to college "... We can focus on so much "after" that we are missing now.
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There are certain advantages as a single. As one person, evening and weekend schedule could be full of activity, but the activity of your choice, and not those who are forced to participate in other people. You do not create problems at home of three or four nights during the week. Your time and your money can be used in any way you choose and no one will question it. So go ahead and buy those shoes! Learn to play the oboe. Get another degree. Take that clog dancing class. Do whatever it is that you always wanted to do. Even if this is strange, who would it matter? Make a list of things you want to accomplish in life and start working on them.
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This is a good time to focus on giving back to others. Mentor a young person or visit a senior citizen. Sow into the lives of others, and you'll reap a blessing. When you work in the way of giving yourself to others, you will become more content as they have less and less time to focus on their own wishes. Love is an action word - to show others in your life
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It's pretty well guarded secret, but often married people envy a lifestyle. They are to report to someone. They must be accountable for their time and money for the family. I've had several people in my married state: "It's not all it is cracked up to be." Or, "Take your time ."
It's pretty well guarded secret, but often married people envy a lifestyle. They are to report to someone. They must be accountable for their time and money for the family. I've had several people in my married state: "It's not all it is cracked up to be." Or, "Take your time ."
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It's pretty well guarded secret, but often married people envy a lifestyle. They are to report to someone. They must be accountable for their time and money for the family. I've had several people in my married state: "It's not all it is cracked up to be." Or, "Take your time ."
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According to the definition of "Single" is an adjective that means, in part 1) not married, 2) an unaccompanied other 3) which consists of separate, unique entity ... "There is a difference between being single and being alone. Marriage is not the only alternative to one. There is no need to be alone when you can develop friendships that can be like family. For example, I know a group of people who are all transplants in the Chicago area. They all living in suburban Oak Park and spend time together in an open movies, trips and so on. the holidays, keep your "family" dinners and cookouts. They have become each others' surrogate family and think of each other in this way. We all need to love and be loved, but that love can come from various sources. You can get the support, encouragement and acceptance you are looking for spending time with close friends. And, it's good practice for marriage, because if you can not maintain the quality of friendship with their challenges, how can you maintain a solid relationship with a person 24 hours a day, 7 days a week through friendship, we learn in practice characteristics necessary for marriage -? communication, patience, compassion, listening, loyalty, care of the needs of another person, etc. . Through friendship we learn to love other people that we were born to relate to. All this helps us to prepare for the day to say "I do." Although we generally think we are, we are never fully prepared for the unexpected problems of interference with life another distinct personality or unexpected pleasures to be made.
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Some women view marriage as some sort of Nirvana. Being married will not solve all your problems or relieve the pressures of life. This is not the solution. In fact, it creates problems, conflicts and tensions that must adapt and overcome and if the marriage is to be successful. It takes work to make a marriage together, so that while you are still single, the rest of the task ahead and enjoy the simple life. It will never be this easy again. Most children who are in a hurry to grow up, so that they can do whatever they want to know soon to have a job, bills and responsibilities is not fun to drive are expected to be. Also, most people who once married soon find that it is not constant passion and pleasure, but a lot of hard work. There is a woman who was a member of the church, where I grew up. Before getting married in the late 30's, she has struggled financially most of his life. She saw her upcoming marriage as the end of all his fights. She predicts more financial struggles. She is looking forward to having that Lexus was a dream. She felt that all her problems were about to be over and above what it was about to be, "Mrs. Hutchinson Tom!" Unfortunately, "Tom", was soon laid off his job for many years, had a child immediately, and soon the trouble in paradise. The couple was faced with significant marital problems.
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People often forget that marriage is a partnership based on commitment to each other and a willingness to work together through good and bad times - and that will be bad times. It should be mutually enriching and fulfilling for both sides. When working as designed, there is an undeniable warmth, friendship and "fit", which are obviously the ones with which it interacts par.
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It is true that the activities are often geared towards couples. Sometimes, it seems that the whole world is paired with, and we are left to fend for themselves. Although we May be accepted by others, we feel as awkward. Often we have only one person in the family or business gatherings. While they mean no harm to us personally, people tend to invite people to participate in activities as couples. For example, I have a cousin who liked to play by, but the parties still are for couples. I have always been invited, along with whomever I was in a relationship. On one occasion, I was very hurt to learn that they host a game party, and not only did not invite me, but did not let on that he was going, because I had a boyfriend at the time. (Talk about hitting a nurse when she was down ...) I do not think it's fair that my involvement in playing games should be based on my relationship status. But there are times we feel left out. Therefore, it is very important to have a strong network of friends with whom we spend time.
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Paul in I Corinthians 7:25-35 tells us that in order to get one. In fact, it is a definite advantage. Our time is our own conduct in the way we see fit. We can spend time developing ourselves and our relationship with God. When the opportunity or crisis arise, we can adjust our time accordingly, without having to deal with how it affects our spouse or children.
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